Why I Believe Letting Teenagers Get into Romantic Relationships Is Dangerous
I could remember how fickle a teenager's mind really is. A teenager who's mature enough understands that they're not mature enough for certain things. Part of maturity is when you realize you're not yet ready for something and you do something to get ready for it. But most teenagers today don't want to accept that they're not still mature enough. They want their freedom without considering the fact it means losing financial support from one's parents. With this in mind, I would like to talk about why allowing teenagers to get into romantic relationships is a dangerous thing.
No one should confuse a crush from a true love. A crush is just an infatuation. It could be bordered in some personality traits (ex. intelligence) or admiration of appearance where rage hormones may help fuel lustful thoughts. There is always the statement that as teenagers you must admire from afar. But some teenagers just can't wait so they get into the dangerous world of emotional relationships to where they are ill-equipped.
There is always the problem of studies must come first. It's stupid to say teenagers must be allowed to get into a relationship so they will be inspired to do better in their studies. However, more cases prove that they will end up expiring when the relationship is over due to maturity. Teenagers tend to want their freedom at the wrong place and at the wrong time. They're already busy talking with each other for endless hours instead of studying. Talk about how many projects, assignments and exams will be left undone or badly done because no one could properly deal with an early relationship while studying.
No one should confuse a crush from a true love. A crush is just an infatuation. It could be bordered in some personality traits (ex. intelligence) or admiration of appearance where rage hormones may help fuel lustful thoughts. There is always the statement that as teenagers you must admire from afar. But some teenagers just can't wait so they get into the dangerous world of emotional relationships to where they are ill-equipped.
There is always the problem of studies must come first. It's stupid to say teenagers must be allowed to get into a relationship so they will be inspired to do better in their studies. However, more cases prove that they will end up expiring when the relationship is over due to maturity. Teenagers tend to want their freedom at the wrong place and at the wrong time. They're already busy talking with each other for endless hours instead of studying. Talk about how many projects, assignments and exams will be left undone or badly done because no one could properly deal with an early relationship while studying.
There's the real problem of instability during the puberty stage. I often remember how I'm told to leave all those petty quarrels in elementary and high school behind (while learning from them) because those were a result of immaturity. The problem of having crushes is that it's usually just there. It's just an admiration and not a long-term relationship. While it's sometimes possible that one's crush turns into a real relationship but the time may not be right at that time. But more often than not infidelity is very common among teenagers. It's even possible for someone who have several crushes (while not acting on those urges) before landing on the right man or woman.
This also means handling things one can't handle yet or aren't ready to handle. Temptation can be at its strongest during the hormonal stage. There's rage hormones and sex hormones developing. This is the problem when people get tempted to get involved in premarital sex. It's a problem when teenage lovers' impatience goes beyond bounds and they start having sex with each other. Imagine the pain that a teenage pregnancy will bring. They are underaged and where can they get the money to support the child? Don't tell me that they will resort to having an abortion to get rid of an inconvenience. There must really be a relationship or connection between abortion clinics and schools that allow early relationships in one way or another.
What can be done with this one? There's always one solution. Remember 1 Corinthians 13:4 mentions first hand that love is patient. There's always a right time for relationships and teenage relationships isn't the best time. They have to know themselves, mature and be ready for relationships. Otherwise, it would just bring in more heartaches because you didn't know how to wait.